May 14, 2008

Stop the ride, I want to get off!

Yes, we are back in town and had tons of fun! We did experience some struggles along the way and to keep everyone who knows updated in one shot I thought I'd post the story and an update.

I found out I was pregnant a little over two weeks ago. I was excited for two days before some bleeding started. It was just some dark spotting which I have had with all my kids so I wasn't too concerned until it lasted longer then 3 days and started getting heavier and bright red. On Monday, the day before we left for Arizona, I started bleeding even more. I tried to get into a doctor but because I am Rh negative and needed a RhoGAM shot they referred me to the ER. So off to the ER I went. They checked me and took some blood and gave me the shot. They wanted me to come back in two days to take blood again to make sure my hcg level (pregnancy hormone) was doubling. Because I was going to be in Arizona they just rechecked it the next day. My hcg level went up only 20%. Because I was still bleeding and the level was not going up as it was supposed to, I figured I was in for a great time on my trip meaning I thought I was going to miscarry. We fly out to Arizona late Tuesday and on Wednesday, I started really bleeding, passing clots and a little tissue. I was cramping pretty bad and figured I had miscarried, especially since the cramping and bleeding died down that evening. Because I thought the miscarriage had happened and because I was on vacation, I decided to enjoy myself and not rest like I probably should have. I played volleyball Friday morning with my old gang in Goodyear. I played around the world ping pong with Mark's siblings and spouses Friday night. And of course Saturday was a busy day with Kenny's baptism and it being my birthday and all. So when Sunday (Mother's Day) came around things got considerably worse. I started passing quarter size clots and was bleeding heavily. I started feeling dizzy and told Mark it was time to take me in so off to the ER we go. We went to the new Banner hospital on Higley which is really nice. By the time we got there and in a room I thought I was going to die. The cramps were bad and I was flowing like a faucet. My blood pressure was high as well. They take me in the back and do an ultrasound (which the technician was not going to give me any clues) and took some more blood. My doctor came in as soon as she received the results from the ultrasound. She said I had not miscarried. The sac was still there but because I was so early in the pregnancy, they could not see anything else meaning, no heartbeat or fetal pole. Which is normal for being only 5 weeks. I should probably mention that the doctor did an exam and found my cervix closed/no dilation. I of course start crying and she asked if this was a planned pregnancy. I told her it was a planned pregnancy, that we had been trying for 17 months. I just had it in my mind that I had already miscarried and I figured I was there because there was some left over tissue which was causing problems. I thought I was going in to get things taken care of and then I could move on from this whole ordeal. Instead I find I'm back on the roller coaster still not knowing if I was going to miscarry. I still have a high chance that it is an ectopic pregnancy or a blighted ovum (which is when the sac forms but an embryo doesn't) because my hcg levels are going up only slightly. She told me that for some reason some women bleed like I am and still have a healthy baby. The ultrasound ruled out any hemorrhaging. She said we will know more when we get the hcg results. If the level is the same or has dropped then we will know that it is not a viable pregnancy and we can take it from there. A little later she came in with the results. My levels went up 20% again instead of doubling. So now I'm playing the waiting game. Still not knowing if all will be well. I got the OK to fly back home the next day. No heavy lifting, take it easy, lay down and rest for the bleeding and go back in if it gets worse, yadda, yadda, yadda.

So now for the update. I still know nothing! My doctor here does not want to repeat a blood test because hcg levels can be so unreliable. I have an ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday and will know more then. So stay tuned!

P.S. I'm still bleeding but it is not as bad when I stay down and do nothing which is not an easy thing to do.

14 comments:

Christine said...

Oh, Karen. I'm so sorry all of this is happening to you. Please know that we will keep you in our prayers and that we love you! Let us know if there is anything else we can do....family fast?

Harmony said...

Hi Karen!
I wanted to wish you a late happy birthday. It sounds like you had an interesting one this year. We'll be praying for you. Hopefully things will improve with the pregnancy! I think our bodies can be weird sometimes. When I went off birth control back in December my first period was terrible. I was losing huge clots like the size of baseballs. Now they are mostly regular and not as heavy. Maybe you will stop bleeding soon too! Keep us all posted and thanks for the blog! Mom mentioned that you were probably miscarrying so I've been checking your site every day for an update so I feel better now that I know what's going on! Ask Mark for a blessing if you haven't already. That can only help! :)
Love,
Harmony

The Becker Bunch said...

My goodness. I am SO sorry. What a horrible thing...and after trying for so long it just is aweful! We will MOST DEFINATELY keep your sweet family in our prayers and please update often...I'm so worried and hopeful for you! I second the blessing idea...try to find some peace and TAKE IT EASY!!!

:) said...

Karen, I am so sorry about what is going on. We will be sending lots of prayers your way. Take it easy.

Terese Hamilton said...

What an ordeal! I am so sorry I hope all turns out well for you.

Anonymous said...

karen- we are praying for you guys!! keep us in posted!! and good luck! we are so glad that we got to see and spend time with you guys!!!! we love all of you!!

sara said...

so sorry....isn't it horrible some of the things we women have to endure...you are in my prayers...

Rochelle said...

Oh...you poor thing!!!!!!!!! Take it easy for sure and try not to stress too much, though that is easier said than done. Good luck. We are definitely thinking of you.

Kami R said...

I can't believe you have to wait until Tuesday! You've already waited 17 months... Anyway, hang in there. I hope you feel better and all is well!

CD Black said...

Consider yourself added to another prayer list. Good gravy! Having to be restful when you have 3 kids cannot be an easy task. Keep us posted. I hope your RS will take care of you. What you need is a casserole! I hope someone does for you what I can't. Hugs.

Lori said...

I'm so sorry to hear about all this. The waiting game is no fun, and I hope it all turns out well. Take care of yourself!!

Elise and Dan said...

Oh my gracious!! I am so sorry Karen! I hope you find something out that can give you some peace of mind! You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Maybe that baby is just so darn excited to be a part of your wonderful family!

Corbett Family said...

Good luck with the roller coaster ride. Hope all goes well. I'll be thinking of you.

Heidi and Jace said...

Oh my Karen! I sure hope all goes well. We'll pray for you. Let us know when you find out anything! Take Care.